4 Ways To Deal With Jealousy In A Relationship

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4 Ways To Deal With Jealousy In A Relationship

Postby synteche » Mon Mar 27, 2017 3:35 am

1. Recognize your destructive thoughts

If you’re feeling jealous, recognize it instead of avoiding or denying it. Psychology Today advises you to question yourself by asking:



What is making me jealous?
What am I afraid of losing?
What am I trying to keep?
Why do I feel threatened?
Are these feelings due to anger? If you recognize your jealousy as soon as it strikes, you can begin to take quick steps toward constructively managing your feelings. First, take a deep breath, and then look at the situation from all sides. This will help offer some perspective, so you can deal with the situation with a clear head.

2. Push negative thoughts aside and focus on the positive

Jealousy and irrational thoughts are not something that go away overnight. It takes a lot of work to deal with your thoughts rationally and re-focus your negative thoughts on things that are positive. What is positive about your relationship? Think about it, and then write it down. This will help you organize your thoughts and sort out your feelings.

3. Work on yourself and keep busy

Jealous tendencies are something you have to continuously work on. If you don’t feel happy, spend some time working on yourself. Do things that make you happy, and engage in self discovery. Dr. Phil suggests analyzing why you are jealous. Have you been cheated on in the past? Are you scared of eventually getting hurt? Once you know what’s sparking your jealousy, you can start to work on understanding those feeling

4. Discuss jealously with your partner

It’s important to discuss your jealousy problem with your significant other. Sharing your feelings (calmly) is a constructive way to avoid serious relationship damage. You should always feel comfortable sharing your thoughts with your partner. When doing so, though, avoid blaming your significant other for your behavior. Stick to “I” based statements, and be open to your partner’s thoughts and opinions on the matter.
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